Articles about raising kids
Educating children is not the easiest job on the planet, but it
is one of the most enlightening
ones. It requires an enormous amount of effort, a lot of love, patience,
perseverance, and a continuous questioning of your own attitudes.
Raising kids is actually guiding
them to be all they can be. Educating is helping
children to unfold and realize the full potential hidden in their
talents, their gifts of Nature.
It is about seeing what makes them unique, and letting them "be"
their own "unique being." Discover their specific talents
(the ones they actually have , not the ones you would wish
them to have) and then provide the environment most suitable
for them to develop their talents.
Who is this child? Who is this being that chose me as its parent?
What does this child come to show me? What can I learn from
my child, and what can I teach it? These are the
most important questions to consider.
Another important aspect is to assist them in discovering their
limits and respecting
those of others. It is your task to guide them in their search for
themselves. While they are on this quest, they might hurt you once
in a while, but you have to keep on anyway. As a parent, as an educator,
you are the "reference." If you don't make a good reference,
then the child will go somewhere else to test the boundaries of
social interaction. Children need to know the boundaries, so that
they can feel safe inside. Children will not "settle down"
as long as the boundaries are set too vaguely, and they will keep
wasting their energy on testing a shaky set of laws rather than
moving on with developing their talents.
De biggest challenge in education is that parents have to set the
example and ACT the way you want the
children to act. It's no use telling them constantly
that they have to work hard and make an effort, if you are letting
things slide in your own life.
In my articles on children and education, I would like to – as
a mother of four and as a psychologist – reach out to those who
are taking the task of education to heart, with real care and honest
concern.
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