My story

I felt like a failure for a big part of my life. I had a college degree, a husband, four children, a beautiful house, good friends, overseas holidays, cute pets, many certificates and diplomas and especially a lot of frustration. I had everything and nothing at the same time. I was going nowhere, thinking that everybody was successful except me. I tried to convince myself that I couldn’t be successful with so many kids to look after, but then this reminded me of my mother, who never did anything with her talents and energy “because of the children.” I decided that was a lousy excuse, so I had to find another, more plausible excuse, but couldn’t find any. My frustration was building up to the size of a mountain. I got more and more scattered, feeling like I was cut up in a hundred pieces: one going this way, another going that way, still another going elsewhere and all together going nowhere.

Do you recognize the feeling? It was terrible and with every passing birthday it got worse. I was destroying myself and started to “explode.” I didn’t understand this was my own energy turning against myself, because I didn’t have a goal to direct my energy to.

Finally I had a really close look at the problem. I said to myself, “Girl, if you are able to bear four children and manage all of your activities (housekeeping, community service, silk-painting workshops I was giving, the parents-board I set up at school, and many other things I was involved in) all by yourself, then you must be able to put ALL this energy TOGETHER in ONE direction and move forward faster than a rocket to the moon!”

But I had no clue what my goal in life was and how to get there. I got more and more envious of people who had this inner peace and this outer glow on their face and who did succeed in life. I had all the ingredients right there but still nothing happened. There was some key element missing. People saw me as a very talented person, but I felt like a chicken with its head cut off, heading in any and all directions at the same time. I was angry and agitated, running around like a very busy woman, seemingly “getting on top of everything,” but the truth is I was haunted by the idea of kicking the bucket BEFORE it all got started! Really, I was afraid that everything would be over and done with, before I had the chance to live MY life! I got sick of it.

So there I was, with all of my talents spread out before me, and nothing happening. Only frustration. It’s like baking a cake for the first time: all the ingredients are out on the table, but if you don’t know how to put them together, there will be no cake. Now I know what was lacking then: the idea of the cake and the recipe! The separate ingredients are completely useless if you don’t know what to do with them! The butter will get rancid, the milk will go bad, bugs will breed in the flower and the eggs will start to smell. Fine ingredients, yes, but without the purpose of making a cake, they just sit and rot.

So the key element that was missing was this: I didn’t know the purpose of my life!

When I understood this, at first I got angry with myself! I said, “You stupid girl! Did you go through college and all these workshops and self-help courses to find out you’re missing a purpose in life?” Of course the anger didn’t help me go forward, so I said, “Ok, it’s not your fault, nobody told you, and you couldn’t have known.”

Then I started looking for tools to discover my purpose and to set goals! I found a little bit here, a little bit there, all of it valuable stuff, yes, but scattered around in pieces, and I got frustrated again. That’s when I found my own purpose: to write a comprehensive masterpiece of purpose-hunting and goal-setting. To create a workbook with ALL of the tools and techniques for success put together. Everything in ONE clear and practical exercise book. I compiled this book and tested these techniques on many people in individual and group sessions, with fabulous results!

This is what I’m doing every day of my life since then : assist people to find the purpose of their lifes!

And what happened? From the moment I made my inner search for meaning the priority of my life, I found inner peace and most of all : enthusiasm! All these harassing questions that have been torturing my mind since decades suddenly stopped. I felt like a heavy burden was taken off of my shoulders and I discovered what this means : to live one’s life on purpose.

Having a purpose gives a direction to your life. You don’t live scattered anymore. You will know exactly what to do and with whom to travel on your road. Those who help you achieve your goals are the good companions, those who hold you back are to be left behind.

Did everything go by itself since I found my life’s purpose? No! It would be too easy! I had to leave my husband since he belonged to the second category… I moved twice since that moment, always into a more beautiful home, better adjusted to my life’s purpose.

But these “physical” changements didn’t stop me, since I was left up by a greater energy. Things started to flow in a mysterious way, and they still do abundantly : love, wealth, health (God knows I was an abonnee in the hospital before, seen as a weak person in the family, always ill, always tired, not meant to live long…), friendship, inspiration, coincidences, being at the right place at the right moment, help, support, success, recognition… All these things are “spiritual articles” which start to flow in your life once you are connected to your souls purpose!

If you want to become happy and filled with enthusiasm, do as I did : find out WHY you are here and find finally PEACE in your heart and mind.

If you have a dream, then cherish it. It is your dream and it is your responsibility (response-ability) to realize it.

Act and get yourself moving in the direction of your goal.

I did, once I found out about myself and my reason of living. I started to really LIVE my dreams and I made a priority about realizing what I saw with my mental eyes.

I can assure you this: it feels good! It feels wonderful! Having a purpose and knowing how to fulfill it replenishes my energy day after day! I used to drag around this dreadful fatigue all the time, wondering how I could make it through the day, make it to that moment of relief where I could go to bed again. But now I have a completely different problem: how to keep up with this sparkling fountain of energy! I feel carried along by a divine energy taking me to where I want to be, very quickly indeed. I am filled with enthusiasm and all my energy is focused on one thing: helping you realize your dreams, freeing your potential by taking off the chains that are holding you back.

I am here to convince you to drop the frustration right now (you don’t have to wait as long as I did!) and to give you a glimpse of paradise: feeling the power of living life on your own terms!

Enjoy your success and enjoy living your dreams!

Ineke

P.S. I’ve put everything I learned and discovered carefully together in two books : one about finding your purpose in life and one about goal setting and achieving success. These two books will guide you step by step towards the realization of YOUR dreams!

P.P.S. I’m not talking about just the next self-help book. It is a real encyclopedia on purpose and success. Go ahead and start climbing the ladder of success. I will guide you through all the necessary steps to reach your goals. Only the most excellent techniques are collected in this book to help you with all of that. EVERYBODY can find his or her purpose in life, if he or she gets the right assistance. This is what I’m giving you here. Take it! I will be your partner in the process. Remember, I’ve been there and now how bad it feels to turn around in circles!